Comments on: How to Find the Courage to Stick Up For Yourself http://blog.arrowheadkenpo.com/how-to-find-courage/ Tue, 06 Dec 2011 03:33:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Rachael http://blog.arrowheadkenpo.com/how-to-find-courage/comment-page-1/#comment-160 Rachael Tue, 09 Sep 2008 18:12:20 +0000 http://www.arrowheadkenpo.com/blog/how-to-find-the-courage-to-stick-up-for-yourself/#comment-160 Great article! Returning to Karate after substantial time off made me realize just how much I had missed. During my time off, I gradually lost my assertive nature. It was so gradual, I didn't fully realize until friends and co-workers began encouraging me to return to Karate. Since returning, my confidence is moving in a positive direction. As mentioned in the article, increased assertiveness and a positive self image will result. Such results happen without laying a hand on anyone. Again, thank you for the article. Karate definitely enhances my everyday life. Great article! Returning to Karate after substantial time off made me realize just how much I had missed. During my time off, I gradually lost my assertive nature. It was so gradual, I didn’t fully realize until friends and co-workers began encouraging me to return to Karate. Since returning, my confidence is moving in a positive direction. As mentioned in the article, increased assertiveness and a positive self image will result. Such results happen without laying a hand on anyone. Again, thank you for the article. Karate definitely enhances my everyday life.

]]> By: James http://blog.arrowheadkenpo.com/how-to-find-courage/comment-page-1/#comment-161 James Sat, 02 Aug 2008 04:16:24 +0000 http://www.arrowheadkenpo.com/blog/how-to-find-the-courage-to-stick-up-for-yourself/#comment-161 Really nice blog post. I think everyone out there could take this advice at some point in their life. Thank you for the words of encouragement. Really nice blog post. I think everyone out there could take this advice at some point in their life. Thank you for the words of encouragement.

]]> By: Cory http://blog.arrowheadkenpo.com/how-to-find-courage/comment-page-1/#comment-158 Cory Mon, 28 Jul 2008 22:53:13 +0000 http://www.arrowheadkenpo.com/blog/how-to-find-the-courage-to-stick-up-for-yourself/#comment-158 What a great article. One thing I have noticed since taking this art is the way I look at people in public situations. I walk through large crowds and dark parking areas much more alert and with much more confidance. I dont tend to worry so much what people are doing around me anymore, but yet I am so much more aware of them, where they are, what there doing. I am a musician and I sometimes find myself in less desirable situations or in less desirable places, filled a lot of times with pretty crazy people. I used to be much more nervous in ruff bars or in clubs that are out of town and unfamiliar to me. I have seen a lot situations get out of hand, and would always feel at least alittle nourvous or anxious in new places with a crowd I dint know. I think I was always a little worried about the unknown, never to sure how the night was going to end up. But I have noticed that those feelings have trailed of somewhat and have been replaced with that confidance and awareness. I now feel pretty comfortable most of the time and my self confidance and self worth have never been higher. I dont think I started to notice it too much until recently. I think it was a gradual proccess that is still unfolding for me but i am definatly in a diffrent place in life than i was a year ago even. I know this art gives you inner strength and confidence, and sometimes most importantly, those feelings of great self worth. We are all worth standing up for! What a great article. One thing I have noticed since taking this art is the way I look at people in public situations. I walk through large crowds and dark parking areas much more alert and with much more confidance. I dont tend to worry so much what people are doing around me anymore, but yet I am so much more aware of them, where they are, what there doing. I am a musician and I sometimes find myself in less desirable situations or in less desirable places, filled a lot of times with pretty crazy people. I used to be much more nervous in ruff bars or in clubs that are out of town and unfamiliar to me. I have seen a lot situations get out of hand, and would always feel at least alittle nourvous or anxious in new places with a crowd I dint know. I think I was always a little worried about the unknown, never to sure how the night was going to end up. But I have noticed that those feelings have trailed of somewhat and have been replaced with that confidance and awareness. I now feel pretty comfortable most of the time and my self confidance and self worth have never been higher. I dont think I started to notice it too much until recently. I think it was a gradual proccess that is still unfolding for me but i am definatly in a diffrent place in life than i was a year ago even. I know this art gives you inner strength and confidence, and sometimes most importantly, those feelings of great self worth. We are all worth standing up for!

]]> By: Joel http://blog.arrowheadkenpo.com/how-to-find-courage/comment-page-1/#comment-159 Joel Sun, 27 Jul 2008 21:40:55 +0000 http://www.arrowheadkenpo.com/blog/how-to-find-the-courage-to-stick-up-for-yourself/#comment-159 Shortly before I started taking your class, I was walking to work and noticed a man that looked suspicious. He was walking along a row of cars parked on the side of the road, looking in each as he went. I was 20-30 feet behind him and he didn't know I was there. He paused longer at one car, and then tried the handle. I should have yelled to stop him, but nobody else was around. How would I defend myself if the man was upset that I had caught him? The door was locked. The man then noticed me and continued walking, not looking in any other cars. I know I would have acted differently had that occurred after I had started training. I would have had no problem speaking up because I know I could have defended myself. Even after achieving just the yellow belt level my self confidence rose tremendously and I knew that I could stand up for myself, whether it be in that situation on the street, or simply asserting myself in design decisions in meetings at work. After training for a while, I did start asserting myself at work, and saw my responsibilities grow. I also started speaking out about some of the real problems we were having with a team member that wasn't performing any of his duties, and was detrimental to the progress of our product. In the end, nothing was done about that person, and I made my final assertion by finding a new job. Shortly before I started taking your class, I was walking to work and noticed a man that looked suspicious. He was walking along a row of cars parked on the side of the road, looking in each as he went. I was 20-30 feet behind him and he didn’t know I was there. He paused longer at one car, and then tried the handle. I should have yelled to stop him, but nobody else was around. How would I defend myself if the man was upset that I had caught him? The door was locked. The man then noticed me and continued walking, not looking in any other cars.

I know I would have acted differently had that occurred after I had started training. I would have had no problem speaking up because I know I could have defended myself. Even after achieving just the yellow belt level my self confidence rose tremendously and I knew that I could stand up for myself, whether it be in that situation on the street, or simply asserting myself in design decisions in meetings at work.

After training for a while, I did start asserting myself at work, and saw my responsibilities grow. I also started speaking out about some of the real problems we were having with a team member that wasn’t performing any of his duties, and was detrimental to the progress of our product. In the end, nothing was done about that person, and I made my final assertion by finding a new job.

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